If You Want To Live A Life Of Your Own, Plan less.
By nature, most of us hate to fail and prefer a path of least resistance. So, we plan every thing. We plan to the deepest detail possible in order to avoid any uncertainty and surprises. And will try our best to stick to that plan.
There is nothing wrong having a plan. But too much of planning will kill your creativity, because planning is quite limiting in essence. Instead, have a high level plan, like a roadmap. And leave rest of the details to the moment to reveal your creativity.
Most cases, our ‘plans’ are created based on experiences of those who didn’t have one. There is nothing wrong in learning from others. But don’t dwell onto too many details upfront. Remember that ‘surprises’ are what makes a life worth living for. More over, your feelings and emotions will be genuine when you don’t have a plan.
On a related note, If you want to really know a person, sail with him/her to unchartered waters. Not only each of you get to know the other person, but you will find your true self. In fact that is the essence of going on a honeymoon to a totally new place.
So, if you really want to live a life of your own, plan less.